How To Build Long Lasting Love In Your Marriage.


Do you have desire to have long lasting love in your marriage? This is for sure wish of so many Christian couples, however many of their relationships in real sense are either struggling or collapsing. This is not God’s will and desire for any of His children. This article aims at enlightening you on how to build long lasting love in your marriage life.

Love is mostly coupled with long suffering and is kind; love does not envy; love does parade itself not, is not puffed up; hardly behave rudely, hardly seek its own, is not easily provoked, thinks of virtually no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices very much in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But be it whether there be prophecies, they will fail… – I Corinthians 13:4-8 (NKJV).


Marriage on a normal basis is a spiritual institution and foundation which should not be entered into or be led in the flesh, you graciously need the help of God. Marriage in most cases is more than mere “I DO” though it’s part of the beginning of the special bond. It is this bonding of a woman and a man spirit, soul and body. That’s why if you have sex, which is one of the key factors of marriage, with a harlot you become one bond with her and reap the consequences of it, the wrath of God.


For one to have long lasting love in marriage you “must” know LOVE Himself. God is love according to book of (I John 4:8)! How much you know of Him determines how long lasting your love for your spouse will be. Your love for God determines how much you will love and care forr your spouse. I’m not talking about Eros (Love of the physical body or that of sexual desire) or Philia (that of Brotherly love), though it can’t be denied that you need them in marriage. I am making emphasis about Agape love if long lasting love is what you desire to have in your marriage. You need to love your spouse with the love that is of God. ‘It will always pass the test of time. Others may fail but not Agape love.

God’s kind of love

‘The scriptures in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 clearly gives a description of what God’s love is and looks like. This is how you love your spouse, without conditions attached. That was how Jesus loved us “that while we were yet sinners He died for us”. God really expects us to love our spouses like Jesus did and still loves us. You are to love him or her, not because he or she loves you but essentially because you love God and you want to please Him. Otherwise, if you ever think that your spouse doesn’t love you again, you may quit loving him”.

What next?

‘In marriage, it’s not only about what you can get from your spouse or what he or she gives or can give you; it is about what you can give him or her. Marriage is about what you can also contribute into her or his life. God thought very well about marriage and ‘instituted it because He felt something was missing in Adam and He ensured He made a help meet for Him. So, in marriage you are to supply whatever may be or seem to be lacking to your spouse. You are not to get him or her to supply what is lacking in you; that shouldn’t be your focus. For you to have lasting love, you need to mind your own part of responsibility and believe God to help your spouse do his/her own part.

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‘The truth is that if you sole depend on your spouse to make you happy you might be in trouble. He or she doesn’t have the capacity to do that. Your happiness and joy lies solely in God and him alone. If He fulfills this through your husband or wife, that’s very great. But you must chose to solely depend on God for everything in your marriage. Chose to please God all the time and you will always please your spouse, and he or she will reciprocate same to you. Jesus, having desire to please God, the Father, always was a blessing to the people.


‘Furthermore, you can’t love and not give. You may give without loving, but there is no way you will love and not give;, your time, energy, and resources. Giving is living. God shows us what it means to love by giving us His only cherished Son and there is nothing else He won’t give you. Therefore, we must learn to give our best and all to our spouse.


‘In conclusion, do you desire to have a long lasting love in marriage, then first know God (who is Love) and obey His instructions, choose to please your spouse, putting her or him first before you and make giving a lifestyle in your relationship and you will be building a lasting love in your relationship.

Here are 7 easy ways to build your relationship and actively create deeper love and connection:

  1. Stay in Close Contact. …
  2. Be Present. …
  3. Learn More About Your Partner. …
  4. Do Something New Together. …
  5. Learn Something New Together. …
  6. Play Games.
  7.  Reminisce…

Jay Wasinda is a teacher, speaker, counselor. He has a burning passion of teaching people how to enjoy peace, God’s love and christian living for more fulfilling life. Want more fulfilling life? Subscribe for free email updates today.

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